Last night I went to go see the Red Hot Chili Peppers. They were playing at the newly renamed PNC Center , formerly the “RBC Center ”. I’m glad I went because I had a really good time but, I still don’t feel like I had as good of a time as most of the people in attendance. I don’t know what it is, but whenever I see live music I never feel like I’m enjoying it as much as everyone else there. Last night there were moments during songs where the whole crowd would just start roaring as a unit. Not because of anything specific like an impressive guitar solo or stage antics of the performers, just in the middle of the song a wave of enthusiasm would wash over the crowd. I didn't get it. When it happened I found myself looking around like,
“What? Oh. Is this what we’re doing now? Why?”
It’s like everybody else was tuned into some kind of signal that my social antenna just wasn’t picking up. I've experienced that feeling at a lot of live musical performances. I would say I’m certainly more reserved at shows than the average concert-goer. I never sing along to songs and I might dance a little bit, but only if I’m REALLY into the performance. However, when I’m listening to music alone, I sing and dance all the time. The most obvious explanation for this discrepancy would be that I’m self-conscious, but that’s not it. As I sat there in the crowd last night and thought about it I found the real reason that I don’t enjoy live music on the same level as a lot of people.
I don’t sing and dance at shows because I can’t get over the fact that if I do, then I’m just another asshole singing, dancing and loving the Red Hot Chili Peppers. That probably sounds sad, because it is. The strange thing is that I already knew that I’m just another asshole who loves the chili peppers. I didn’t go to the show last night with any delusions about the Chili Peppers being some sort of underground secret only enjoyed by a select hardcore fan base, of which I am a member. They’re one of the biggest rock groups of the past two decades. I know that what I get out of their music isn’t specific to me. “Under the Bridge” resonates with a shit load of people and I think that just bothers me on an existential level. I want to be a special snowflake who’s having a totally novel and unique experience on this planet. But, at the end of the day, I’m not. I’m as different and individual as any one of the skin cells on my body. Seeing an arena full of other humans enjoying this art that I have such a personal connection with really just shoved that truth in my face. Even the feelings I’m expressing in this post aren't unique. It’s just a hipster mentality. I want this music all to myself because if I’m one of the select few that enjoys it, my ego can cling to that as proof that I’m different from the masses and if I’m different then maybe that means… I’m better.
While a lot of people probably feel like seeing a band perform live is more personal than listening to their recorded work, I completely disagree. The connection to the Red Hot Chili Peppers that I felt last night in that arena full of people doesn't even begin to compare to the connection I feel when I blast “Can’t Stop” in my headphones at the gym because I need to hit a new personal record squat or the connection I felt as a lonely college freshman walking around the frigid winter campus of ASU, listening to “Breaking the Girl”. I realize the love I have of the Red Hot Chili Peppers exists in others. But, thanks to recorded albums, ipods and headphones I can bring their music into my most personal moments and enjoy them in a context that can be truly mine.